The 30 Percent Rule of Wedding Guest List Headcounts

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The 30 Percent Rule of Wedding Guest List Headcounts

Creating your Marriage Attendance Guest List

marriage guest list dos and dontsLet us tell you outright that it is not mandatory to invite every person you know and have met throughout your lifetime for your wedding. What you must do is to invite every person from your friends and family list who are closes to you. This includes close relatives and friends, those who matter a lot to you, those who you have been in touch with from your childhood and earliest days on Planet Earth! The rest of the guest list will depend on the size of the marriage celebration.

A good point to remember is that you must invite those you have invited you to their own weddings in the past which includes the usual members of your community, extended family and friends. current and ex-bosses and colleagues from work. Those who are paying for the pre-marital celebrations could be concerned about keeping the numbers on the guest list manageable in order to stay within the prescribed limits of the budget or concerns could also be raised about the size of the venue being able to accommodate an ever-growing list of guests. For most brides, making the guest list is number 1 on their hate-list because of the lengthy sessions one has to sit through trying to cancel or include potential guests at the same time keeping in mind that one may hurt sentiments by omitting certain people. Whoever said getting married was going to be easy?!! Remember one thing though – You cannot please everybody!

Pre Marital Events are a time for reflecting on the guest list and segregating them according to the different events. You dont always have to invite the same guests to your events whether they be the sangeet, mehendi or others. You could try using extra functions in order to have a more intimate gathering or include groups that cannot be adjusted in other events.

Trying to Imagine the Guests in Your Shoes. If you are getting unduly stressed and tearing your precious hair out about deciding whether or not to invite a certain friend or relative to your wedding, just for a moment try and put yourself in that person's shoes and then ask yourself if he / she would do the same for his / her marriage. Of course, it may be that the individual's wedding has already occurred and you will have your answer immediately but when it comes to singles, do a bit of reflection and ask yourself the big question - If they were getting married, and if they chose not to invite you, would you be offended? Chances are, they feel exactly the same about you! Now wasnt that easy?!!

The 30 % Guest List Headcount Rule

wedding investigators mumbaiAll things being equal, it is important for you and the organiser of the wedding to be sure of the number of guests who are going to be arriving for particular events in order to choose the correct venue and also to get a cost estimate from the caterer. It is important to note that though decoration costs might not escalate regardless of the total number of guest arrivals, catering costs may escalate rapidly if the list becomes inordinately long. It is convenient to use the 30 % marriage headcount rule here – Deduct 30 % of the guests from the total number of invitees. Research indicates that 3 out ten wedding guests will not turn up thus making it convenient for you to calculate your location and catering expenses.

Oh you can even subtract more from the total estimate if it’s wedding season, weekday or weekend, holiday season or if it’s the month of December where there are multiple parties and events happening simultaneously across town. Also remember, that if your wedding has multiple events, it is guaranteed that all your guests will not show up for all of them, choosing the events that are most convenient for them. Do remember though that close friends and family will arrive for all events. Your office colleagues may arrive as a large group for the larger events. These are all observations that can be taken into account by you when creating the guest list and will give you a standard reference when making the final headcount estimate.

Remember that you will save more money if you err on the side of underestimating the number of guest arrivals rather than overestimating. Most caterers will not let you decrease the number of headcount but like all businesses they will even welcome last minute additions! Professional catering companies, banquet halls and hotels are always well prepared for contingencies and to deal with any spikes in number of guests without compromising on quality. Post the event, the catering company will simply count the number of extra plates used and bill you accordingly for the additional guests.

Guest List Etiquette Do’s and Dont’s

Do I have to invite my entire office and other staff?

Not at all unless you are a multi million dollar heiress! But there is one person you must invite even if you dont invite anyone else – YOUR BOSS! It doesnt matter what your current comfort level is currently at with your boss as he is the one who will be signing your leave application for the wedding and the honeymoon. Also inviting your boss to your marriage event may in fact even strengthen the relationship which will translate into a happier and more productive work life. Lets face it. You spend the major part of the day at work with your boss – much more time that you would do with your future wife or husband (not counting sleeping hours) and it pays to secure that end of your life. Regarding the rest of the crowd, just invite the ones you are close to outside of your office unless like we mentioned earlier, you have a large budget and headcount is no problem. In that we case, bring it on – the more the merrier! Let your office peon also partake of the revelries and taste caviar and fine wine! He will remember this for his entire life and will go out of his way in the office to make you the best coffee that he possibly can.

Should I invite guests who most likely will not be able to attend since they stay far away?

Etiquette demands that a courtesy invitation to someone whom you regard highly is definitely in order. It is a nice gesture and will make the other person feel appreciated. All it costs to courier a wedding invite to an out of station individual is ten bucks!

How Do I Make Up to People Whom I havent Invited?

Remember that other people are also human beings like you. People are emotional creatures and it doesnt take much to convince someone that they are genuinely appreciated and loved as friends or family even if they haven’t been invited to you wedding for whatever reasons. Send them a small token such as a box of sweets or a DVD or pen drive containing videos showing the rites. Also remember that in our inflationary times, everyone understands budget cutting measures and the fact that increasingly Indian families are getting more realistic about wedding celebrations and realising that it is indeed foolish to spend beyond one’s means for a wedding. If your reasons for a frugal guest list is financial then you could try sending a nice email explaining that you would love to have them over but that you and your groom have decided to keep things small to save up for the house etc. Just remember to personalise each email. Do not send generic mails or bcc or cc such mails as it could have a counteractive effect!

Author Bio

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Pune Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high net worth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so. Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our pre matrimonial detectives in Mumbai business and leads our able team from the front.

Article edited and co-written by Atin Dasgupta who is the co-founder and marketing head of Alliance One. Read more about Atin here.



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How To Pick the Best Date For The Big Marital Union

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How To Pick the Best Date For The Big Marital Union

The Best Date Is The Most Auspicious One

Since the day you’ve met your fiance, you have been dreaming of the big day. In most cases, you will pick the most convenient day but then in India where religious beliefs have to be taken into consideration, it is not uncommon for brides and bridegrooms to select the most mutually acceptable auspicious date so that the couple can set off on their lives together with divine blessings!

wedding blog mumbaiDifferent religions have different pre marital calendars. Muslim couples will consult the lunar calendar and will push for a marriage on their saad dates. Christians and Sikhs will hold their weddings on Sundays. Christians also have a tradition of attending pre marital counselling sessions with their priest on weekends so that they can receive the certificate from the church that they want to get married in. Hindu Pandits will solemnise a marriage only during auspicious times. Starting off on the Hindu ritualistic date setting process, an astrologer will first and foremost match the bride’s and groom’s horoscopes. 36 attributes are compared while ensuring a minimum of 18 matches. The couple’s cosmic charts are then checked for inauspicious moments – this is highly crucial. Many a times, even if the horoscopes are well matched but the cosmic bodies are not in a favourable position, marriage alliances are not recommended. A few days in a year when there is no shaadi ka saaya also have to be taken into account. Once the priest, pandits, astrologers and / or family elders approve of a few potential wedding dates, the couple and the immediate families should ideally pick the one that is most convenient. You must take into account work schedules and other potential conflicts at the same time. One of the most commonsensical things to do is to check whether the favourite venues are available on any of the shortlisted dates. Also the comfort of guests must be taken into account ensuring a date that will make it easier for the guests to travel and stay for the wedding. A late December date would be great for cousins who are in school abroad so that they can travel back to India, a weekend would suit your working friends while a winter weeknight would be rather apt for a wedding in India as opposed to sweltering weekend in the hot summer months!

The Most Popular Days of the Wedding Season

Most brides desire to get married in the winter months but if there havent been too many auspicious dates for a while in a particular calendar year, then there are a directly proportional number of couples waiting to get hitched at just the right time which is coincidentally the same time as you. Records have been set in the city of Delhi in the past with as many as a min-boggling 20,000 weddings in one night!

Remember that if you are sharing your marriage night with thousands of other couples in your city, more demand will drive up prices and cause bottlenecks and delays. Trying to book your preferred venue, decorators, caterers and music might become an insurmountable task because then the best vendors will create a bidding war with preference being given to those who are willing to pay top bucks. Also even if vendors are not charging top bucks, they may become overbooked and may get stuck in logistical problems such as heavy traffic. The same traffic logjam could also delay the bridegroom’s arrival. The Pandit and even your guests might not be able to stay for long as they have to attend multiple events in one day and also battle the traffic due to which they will have to leave earlier than you have anticipated.

The Sunny Side

But its not all doom and gloom. There is a bright and sunny side to having your marriage during the height of the wedding season. You can then plan on a shorter ceremony. You could invite a large number of guests but at the same time, order lesser number of plates at the caterers since it is likely that 25 % of your guests may prefer to eat at one of the later weddings that they will be attending that night.

Author Bio

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Pune Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high net worth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so. Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our matrimonial detectives in Mumbai business and leads our able team from the front.

Article edited and co-written by Atin Dasgupta who is the co-founder and marketing head of Alliance One. Read more about Atin here.



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Pre Marital Budgeting Ideas On Splurging and Saving

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Pre Marital Budgeting Ideas On Splurging and Saving

In an earlier post here on budgeting tips for your wedding, I had mentioned on items that you must make on your list – stuff that you can afford to spend on without any guilt and stuff that you can scrimp without making a bad impression on guests. During the Pre Matrimonial Stages it is important to establish what to splurge on and what to scrimp on early on so as to avoid cash bottleneck situations later on. Read on for some valuable tips on splurging and saving on items before your big day.

Spend The Following Without Any Guilt:

Indian Marriage Budget Dos and Donts1. Wedding Trousseau – Most brides will undoubtedly put wedding outfits at the no. 1 must-spend item on your budgeting list especially if it involves designer wear from a well known fashion designer. We say go for it!

2. Here’s a great idea to male your special friends feel really special – host a last minute small get together or bash with your close friends. Get drunk, revel in all the hard work that you have put in and say goodbye to the golden years of being a bachelorette!

3. Having spectacular performers at your sangeet can put your guests in a good mood and make your sangeet a memorable and emotional affair. Splurging on professional choreographers to stage act your event can be a ticket to unforgettable memories for your guests and family.

4. Traditionally most marriage invitees bring gifts for the couple but how about a small special gift for your invitees. Most people like to receive gifts and feel happy when they are given something wrapped in a box. A keepsake will help others remember your wedding long after they have gone back home and resumed their normal lives.

5. The events leading up to getting married is stressful to say the least. Your mind and body needs relaxation and beautification before the big day and spending on getting spa treatments at the best spas is a luxury that you must afford.

6. A Celebrity DJ will add that extra oomph, pizazz and brand to your wedding and more importantly will get the crowd rocking on the dance floor.

7. Similarly dont just let your cousins man the bar. Hiring a professional bartender is well worth the compensation paid because not only will be swiftly mix the desired concoctions for your guests but he will also keep them thoroughly entertained with the right antics a la Tom Cruise in the film Cocktail!

8. Think in terms of exotic floral decorations to liven up the decor which may cost you extra but will never fail to lift up the spirits of your guests and impress them with the freshness that flowers can evoke.

9. Food is the ultimate gateway to the hearts of people and in our opinion hiring good caterers to serve multi-continental cuisine to your guests is money well spent.

10. An extended honeymoon in an exotic locale with windswept palm trees and the surf and sand kissing your feet. Need we say more?!

Save On the Following Without Regret:

Indian Pre Marital Style Tips Blog1. Just as you can spend on expensive designer wedding outfits, you can similarly save on the same if you take the time to visit various wedding couturiers and find out options to compare. You could even buy the fabric from a wholesale market such as the Kalbhadevi market  in Mumbai and then get the same stitched from a decent tailor in your locality. This might seem downmarket but who said saving money was upmarket?!

2. I have mentioned this before here in more detail on different DIY bride personalities – getting the same vendors to provide extra services can help you get a good bargain.

3. Now this one’s a no-brainer – Have your marriage during the day to save on lighting expenses!

4. Again this is something that westerners have mastered – the art of outdoor weddings in picturesque locales. This can save you on interior costs and a whole lot of other associated rental and manpower costs. But Indian weather and populated outdoors being the way they are, there arent too many quiet and solitary options. Refer to this guest article that we did here for ideas on outdoor wedding locations in India.

5. Floral decoration costs can be substantial. Use fewer or less expensive flowers or supplement with paper cutouts, ribbons, balloons etc.

6. Catering costs can be substantial in today’s inflationary times. Serve a single regional cuisine or stick to vegetarian fare.

7. When liquor flows freely, money also flows freely! Cut down on your liquor costs by shutting the bar early during the sangeet or cocktail party.

8. No Dj no problem. In today’s world of high tech, this is a problem that is easily solved. Simply load all your tunes in your preferred music player of choice on your laptop and then press the DJ preset. Most media players have a DJ preset whereby the songs seamless fade in and out between each other thereby creating zero breaks between songs. You can still hire a good sound system minus the DJ thereby slashing your music entertainment costs by half.

Managing Your Marriage Event Budget

It is very important that once you have created a detailed wedding budget, you must adhere strictly by the stipulations set down in the budget. Here are some helpful hints for sticking to the budget.

a. Make sure that each and every rupee that is being spent is accounted for, to ensure that you are not spending over and above your limits and to help you curb your spending instincts from time to time. Remember that if money saved is money earned and the more cash you save, the more you have left at the end of the marriage to splurge on something – an act that will make you supremely happy.

b.  Try and open a new marital bank account where all the budget money is deposited and from where all advances and payments will be made out to all vendors. This ensures that your records are clean, prevents confusion and helps everyone monitor the balance that is left in the account from time to time.

c. For cash expenses, consider keeping a secondary tab. Compartmentalise the spendings on various departments of the wedding by dividing the cash into separate envelopes and marking each envelope correctly. The envelope could also contain the spending details jotted on the outside while inside it could contain all the bills, contracts, invoices, receipts etc.

Author Bio

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Pune Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high networth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so.  Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our matrimonial detectives Mumbai business and leads our able team from the front.

Article edited and co-written by Atin Dasgupta who is the co-founder and marketing head of Alliance One. Read more about Atin here.



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Not Every Couple Has a Budget of 500 Crores For Their Wedding

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Not Every Couple Has a Budget of 500 Crores For Their Wedding

Your fiance and you have decided to tie the knot and get married and have dreamed up the perfect wedding. Not everyone can spend 50 Million Pounds on a wedding as Mr. Pramod Mittal the younger brother of Steel tycoon Lakshmi Mittal did for his daughter’s wedding in spectacular Barcelona recently! So before you go ahead with anything else, you and your fiance must decide the big question: How are you going to finance it?

In the bygone era, within an arranged marriage scenario, it was a foregone conclusion that the parents would pay for all the marriage expenses. Typically the bride’s family would pay for the engagement ceremony, the mehendi ceremony, the sangeet, other traditional ceremonies and also meals! The bride’s father would also pay for the lodging and accommodation of all the outstation wedding guests not to mention the bride’s trousseau, and of course buy gifts for the bridegroom and his family which included the likes of watches, perfumes, clothes and heck even sometimes even a car or a swanky apartment! Being the father of the bride was indeed tough on your pocket! The groom’s family on the other hand would only buy clothes and jewelry for the bride and host a reception.

Modern Indian Couples are Rewriting the Rules

Top Indian Wedding Blog MumbaiThat was before the Indian economy boomed and youngsters started earning big salaries as soon as they graduated. This meant that young people have become more independent and do not want to get into an arranged marriage set-up. Since they have chosen their partners themselves and have also become more liberated in their thinking, they are going ahead and taking care of all the aspects of a wedding including the expenses and are only expecting their parents to chip in with whatever they can apart from giving their blessings. Of course, some parents are indeed willing to pay all the expenses (Ask Shrishti Mittal and Gulraj Behl about their contributions to the Rs. 500 Crore Bill!) because a child’s wedding is a source of great joy and is something they look forward to since the moment their child is born. But with rising inflation and increasing wealth of younger Indians, it does make sense for both sides of the family to divide the expenses based on their affluence and spending power. In cases where the parents are not so well off and the couple are earning well, it does not make sense to burden the parents. In this case the couple may decide that they themselves will share all wedding expenses either by diving into their savings or by taking a loan and pay the EMI’s later. In other cases, both families may simply draw up a total bill amount and split it 50:50 or any other ratio that is deemed suitable.

To cut costs, it has even become acceptable for the bride’s family to limit the number of guests that the groom’s family is entitled to invite. This act is itself a dramatic change from the times when it was simply unthinkable to place such demands on the groom’s family. Times have changed and how!

So Who Pays For What

To effectively dispel misunderstandings galore in the future, it is best that the couple set up a meeting with both sets of parents and thrash out all the aspects of the budget even though these are sensitive topics and can create lots of ego issues and behavioural shifts among the elders. You must also make it clear that every rupee will be accounted for and that everyone will be informed about what their monies were spent on. As mentioned earlier, most people are sensitive about their wealth because at the end of the day, wealth is intimately tied with status in Indian society and being insensitive about such matters may create a lot of negativity and lead to endless gossip and arguments. Defer from making statements such as: “We know that this is how much you can give.” and the likes.

Other Financial Sources

Other members of your family and close friends can also contribute to your wedding expenses. Your grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins can also be good resources for financial contributions if not in cash but in kind. They could offer to pay for the banquet hall, booze at the sangeet, floral decorations etc. The rich friend’s mother who owns the sea facing bungalow could host the mehendi at the bungalow while the uncle who is foodie could choose to host the meals for out-of-station guests. Family members and friend chipping in will feel more involved and will be a great asset during the stressful times ahead. Borrowing money from the bank or from money lenders should be the last resort and only if you feel that the budget in hand will not meet the mental imagery of your grand wedding. As far as possible, do not take personal loans to pay for your wedding. If money is short, cut down on the ostentation. You will remember our advice in the future when 5 years later you are still paying loans apart from the additional expenses of starting a family such as a home, car, children’s education etc.

Budgeting Mantras

1. Once you have set an upper limit for the wedding budget, under no circumstances must you go over it.

2. Set a contingency fund aside fro your budget for surprise spendings and miscellaneous expenditure. This may come in handy when you realise that your guest list has increased or when you just have to get that gorgeous wedding trousseau.

3. Mark out items where you must spend more than average because of your nose for quality (think bridal outfits, styling etc.), items where you must pay market rates in order to receive the quality that you and your guests deserve (catering, DJ etc.) and items where you can compromise on the costs to save money (think banquet halls, wedding photographer’s fee etc.).

Of course the pointers above are just an indication. You may decide that the wedding photographer’s fee must be in the ‘must spend’ category of point one because you just love the beauty of the pictures that a professional wedding photographer may take. Food and drinks may be the top most priority for one couple while it may land on the bottom heap of priorities for another. A fabulous destination honeymoon may be on the top for one couple while another may decide to even ditch the honeymoon to make room for a 5 star ballroom reception! People are wired differently! Celebrate your uniqueness and earmark your budgets accordingly.

Check out our Wedding Expenses Planning Sheet below. Save print outs and then use them to calculate your expenses. Happy Planning!

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Author Bio

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Pune Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high networth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so.  Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our pre matrimonial detectives Mumbai business and leads our able team from the front.

Article edited and co-written by Atin Dasgupta who is the co-founder and marketing head of Alliance One. Read more about Atin here.



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Some Guidelines for Starting Research on Planning Your Wedding

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Some Guidelines for Starting Research on Planning Your Wedding

Researching for the Marriage Event

Wedding Research Guide

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One of the questions that often haunts brides-to-be is where-to-do-the-research and where-to-start. To make things easy, we have put together a marriage research guide to point you in the right direction and help you get started with planning for your wedding.

  1. Remember that you are not the first woman in the world who is going to get married! That would be a very heavy burden to carry on your delicate shoulders 🙂 Thankfully billions of women have been married since the dawn of civilization and the past is a treasure trove of knowledge and information when it comes to research from those who have been there done that. Talking about those who have been there done that, how about starting with your own family first. Your mom was a bride once and so was your cool socialite aunt. Set up a special meeting with her and take down notes and all the advice that she can give you. Besides these family elders have also been to dozens of weddings over their lifetimes and their pointers and red flags can really come handy when it comes to your own impending marriage.
  2. Times have changed and how and what your aunt went through 25 years ago may not apply to today’s world. So connect with recently married women – sisters, friends, acquaintances etc.
  3. There are lots of great publications and magazines out there on the stands. Subscribe to one of them immediately and atleast 6 months before the big date. Some of the more prominent ones are Wedding Affairs, Celebrating Vivaha, Asian Bride and Me and My Wedding (a Pakistani magazine). Then there are the usual fashion magazines like Vogue and L’Officiel which also feature wedding and bridalwear trends. These magazines are a goldmine of information, wedding planning tips, latest bridal fashion trends etc.
  4. Wedding and Marriage Blogs have emerged as one of the best things in the wedding planning business. These blogs usually run by one or two people or a small team at the most are hugely popular with young women and have a personalized and intimate touch and feel to them. Unlike magazines which arrive only once a month, these blogs are updated daily and have the advantage of being more in tune with the times especially with women who are always connected online. The Delhi bride is one such blog run by Shinjini Amitabh Chawla. Search online for more and you are sure to stumble upon some very good blogs that can help you with a ton of research. And if in doubt you can always connect with the owner of the blog and chances are that she will be more than eager to help you with any information or help that you desire.
  5. Oh need I mention Hollywood and Bollywood films about weddings which can be a great source of edutainment – entertainment + education! At the top of the Hollywood heap is My best friends Wedding and Father of the Bride. As far as Bollywood goes, I leave it to you to decide which ones fit your style and taste.

Author Bio

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Pune Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high networth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so.  Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our matrimonial detectives Mumbai business and leads our able team from the front.

Article edited and co-written by Atin Dasgupta who is the co-founder and marketing head of Alliance One. Read more about Atin here.



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The Different Personalities of Indian Brides

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The Different Personalities of Indian Brides

One of the basic tenets of wedding planning is to ensure that all the details of the wedding from the large to the small are planned well in advance. Just as there are different personalities of brides, there are indeed varied strategies that you can employ to ensure that the planning of your wedding is flawless.

It is a good idea to go through the various categories of planning and try to choose the one that blends the best with your persona, background and style. Feel free to blend different styles if you think that no one style of wedding is seemingly the right one for you. You might think that a simple mehendi ceremony at your house along with a glittering reception and marriage ceremony at a rented 5 star hotel ballroom goes well with you. Also hiring a wedding planner does not mean that you hand over all responsibilities to the planner. For the smaller and more intimate functions at home, the wedding planner need not be involved and you and your family members could organize the same yourself.

We have made a list of the different styles that are in vogue for Indian marriages:

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1. DIY (Do It Yourself) Bride

The artistic individualistic bride who is blessed with multifaceted talents will want to stamp her mark and her own individuality upon her marriage celebrations. If you love the art of decoration, arranging flowers, creating unique mocks up of wedding invites, loved going through fashion magazines for ideas on hair and makeup and if the idea of someone else ruining your idea of elegance and good design bothers you, then you are the Do-it-yourself bride.  You will have to be a leader and to communicate your vision of all the events including the wedding, find out the best way to approach to execute everything and crack the whip to make others fall in line! We hope that you do have family members and your close and reliable friends to ramp up the execution team. But do remember that being in control of everything is a huge responsibility and need we mention a whole lot of work and frankly you may just get hysterical or stark raving mad at the end of it all – not a pleasant sight for your fiancée on your wedding day!

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2. The Film Director Bride

The Film Director bride knows what she wants but understanding the gravitas of the whole affair does not hesitate to delegate responsibilities. Imagine yourself as a film director directing a magnum opus – one whose success will decide your future career. You have the vision of your wedding in your mind and are clear about the look, style, feel, colours, the supporting actors cast (you and your fiancée are the stars!) and the overall scope and ambition of the project. A film director will at least do a reconnaissance of the grand final scene where the climax of the film will take place. Similarly you will do a recce of various locations yourself until you find one that fits perfectly with what you have in mind. A good director knows that a disgruntled crew is an inefficient crew and being served insipid food and drinks is definitely a big cause for disgruntlement in our book! So like a good director, you will personally taste the food that is going to be served to your hungry guests and choose only the best within your budget because you don’t want your guests to remember your wedding with distaste (pun intended)! You will also personally choose all the other key production people involved in different aspects of execution.  You will then actively co-ordinate between your dream team and ensure that everything is being executed as per your plan – just like you saw it in your mind’s eye!

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3. The Manager Bride

The Manager of a company’s department has to find the most cost-effective vendors to work with without compromising on quality and speed of delivery. Similarly you will contact venues and wedding vendors that will give you the best value for your money. Particularly vendors that offer multifaceted services will win your favour at all times. Hotels that have wedding reception ballrooms also have inhouse caterers or can get you the best rates from reputed caterers. Similarly the manager of the hotel can also get you a DJ and also provide for decorations, florists, wedding photographers, wedding cakes, provide a well stocked bar and barman etc. The benefits of this approach is that you get a team of vendors who understand each other well having worked together in the past and you get to reap the benefits of this well oiled machinery! Similarly makeup artists, fashion stylists and hair stylists often work as a team and creating a one-point source of contact will make you more efficient in your approach and save a lot of stress and time. Needless to say, if you can pull your wedding off smoothly using this approach, any Fortune 500 CEO would be proud of your accomplishments!

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4. The CEO Bride

This kind of bride is world-wise and street smart and couldn’t be bothered to micro-manage. Like the CEO of a company, this type of bride believes in the power of people and wants to make the most of her time as well as resources. Besides like a good CEO, this type of bride does not claim to be an expert in everything and to ensure that the final event goes off without any problems, hires a good wedding planner to do their job even if it means shelling out more moolah! Besides there is a special sense of ease and comfort in knowing that a professional wedding planner is ensuring that all is well and you just relax and go with the proceedings. Besides a professional Wedding Planner armed with a decent budget can pull of extravagant events that the above 3 types just would not be able to pull off on their own. Think Moroccan Tents Theme, Retro Bollywood or the film ‘Chicago’ or ‘Moulin Rouge’ themes. These are themes that only an experienced wedding planner with his / her vast pool of talented costume designers, art directors and production controllers can pull off! A wedding planner can definitely guarantee a stress-free event – that is what they are paid for! More importantly though they can also ensure that quality is never compromised be it – sticking to the original vision, selecting and co-ordinating with vendors. A wedding vendor can offset his / her high professional fees by offsetting the costs on a lot of areas. Due to the high volume of work that they offer to their team of freelancers, they are able to negotiate the best rates for your wedding. At the end of the day, a wedding planner will also ensure that there is no room for error or complaints because they do not want their reputation to be sullied in these competitive times and more recommendation business in the form of your still-single best friend is always welcome!

Author Bio

Tania Verma is the Head of Operations at Alliance One’s Pune Head Office. A mechanical engineer by education, she has a wide variety of experience in various fields such as manufacturing, consumer products and services and the Retail Sector. A strong operational person Tania gets the job done however tight the deadlines and however tough and arduous the task. She excels under pressure and maintains excellent relationships with our corporate clients as well as high networth individuals all over India who have used the company’s services in the past and continue to do so.  Having married recently she feels strongly about untruthful people taking advantage of others and has taken a deep and abiding interest in our matrimonial detectives Mumbai business and leads our able team from the front.

Article edited and co-written by Atin Dasgupta who is the co-founder and marketing head of Alliance One. Read more about Atin here.



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